Oct 4, 2019

Their Infertility Story – Kait & Chris’s IVF Journey

When I first set out to capture Kait & Chris’s infertility story, I thought I would be starting a series titled “This is Infertility.” Followed by more sessions of other heartaches and triumphs that people face in their life. The series was going to focus on real and raw chapters in peoples lives, to not only educate others on the journey but to also document such a pivotal moment in their life.

What I came to realize as I was capturing this journey is that the blanket statement of, “This is Infertility” wouldn’t be just. As someone who is also facing infertility, I realize our stories are all so different, yet all so painful. I also realize that as much as you try, there is so much to every couple’s story that it’s near impossible to convey the emotions and heartbreak in just a short story or in just a few sessions of photography. In the end, the intent of this is still the same – to document and capture real moments in such a painful journey.

1 in 8 couples struggle with infertility. Only 50% of those couples will ever get pregnant through natural or medical interventions. This is just one couples story and I hope it impacts you. 

Thanks so much to Reproductive Associates of Delaware for allowing me to photograph at their appointments and an even bigger thank you to Kait & Chris. Thank you for allowing me in during such a personal chapter of your life. This was such an emotional story to photograph as it hits so hard to home, I don’t think I left any of my sessions with you without being in tears.

 

Here is a look at Kait and Chris’s Story in Kait’s own words:

 

“My husband Chris and I started on our infertility journey in May 2018. I have pre-disgnosed tubal-factor due to stage 4 endometriosis. We committed to IVF a month later and before ever starting the actual IVF process we had a miraculous natural pregnancy, which ended in a heartbreaking chemical miscarriage. Next I had surgery to remove my endometriosis, assess the condition of my tubes (not good), and clean up any other abnormalities.

In October 2018 we finally started IVF: stimmed, retrieved, waited for our embryos to grow, and sent them off for genetic testing, which resulted in 5 perfect hatching embryos. In December we excitedly prepared for a frozen embryo transfer, and were incredibly disappointed when I was unable to get my lining thick enough to transfer and our cycle was cancelled. The first three months of 2019 brought new medications each month and lots more appointments to attempt to get my lining thick enough to transfer. The next two months were unsuccessful and broke our hearts, but in March we were finally able to transfer one of our precious embryos.
Our transfer was successful, and our rainbow baby was due on my husband’s birthday. However, when we finally had our first ultrasound, the baby was nowhere to be found. Our happiness spiraled into despair as we continued with invasive tests, meds, and physical/emotional pain as we found out the pregnancy was ectopic.
In May I had a second surgery where I opted to remove both tubes, not just the one damaged by the ectopic, in order to reduce risk of future ectopic. We were also forced to wait 3-4 months to try again due to the meds to stop the ectopic growth.
We quietly decided to try transfer again in July 2019, which is where Danielle stepped in to capture this, hopefully last, chapter in our infertility journey. She was with us as we monitored and excitedly found out I had my best lining ever!
I was struggling with positivity and terrified after two miscarriages, but we walked into transfer day with smiling faces on 8/8.
We moved on and put our hope in the transfer.
We tested at home. We waited. We got a big fat positive! My blood test was my best/highest first test ever. But my repeat test revealed it was likely yet another chemical pregnancy. Our hearts broke, again.
But, by some miracle, my tests bounced back, and continued to progress normally. We can now excitedly announce that we are expecting our miracle double rainbow baby boy in April 2020!
I am forever thankful that Danielle could so perfectly capture the raw emotion behind our story of infertility and recurrent pregnancy loss. It completely changes you, and we are lucky enough to have those moments sealed forever.”

COMMENTs:

  1. Roxy Roman

    October 4th, 2019 at 9:40 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story. The pictures are so raw and yet beautiful because that’s life. Praying for a healthy pregnancy!

    Amazing job Danielle

  2. Kate

    October 6th, 2019 at 9:47 am

    Thank you for sharing your journey! My husband and I are experiencing infertility issues and reading your success gives me hope! ❤️

  3. Megan

    October 7th, 2019 at 12:27 pm

    What a raw and gorgeous way to share your story. We welcomed our miracle 6 weeks ago with the help of RAD and IVF. I pray your pregnancy is healthy and will be waiting to hear a follow up about your baby boy in April!

  4. Jennifer Adams

    October 7th, 2019 at 10:32 pm

    I’m sitting here tearing up at all the beautiful and yet heartbreaking photos. I too was at RAD for 12 years and as I read your journey it reminded me of our journey. How wonderful you both were to capture this for others to see the heartbreak and joy. We were finally blessed with two rainbow babies 6 years apart. IVF teaches all of us who travel that journey that we are stronger then we ever thought we could be. I’m sending you both all the prayers and good
    baby vibes for a safe and healthy pregnancy and delivery.

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